The Effect of Romantic Movie about Soulmate in the Relationship

CHAPTER 1

INTRODUCTION

Background of the Study

In this world, we believe that we have only one person that really meant for us or a soulmate but we don’t know who he/she is. A soulmate is the man or woman you are compatible with in disposition, point of view or sensitivity. All of us have an ideal type with the opposite sex. When you see someone that catches your attention, you presently feel that unexplainable connection to him/her. Reunite and settle with your soulmate who could possibly justify stuff like knees-turn-into-jellies, butterflies in the stomach and worse, the power of the eyes to invisibly extract out other people’s strength. A soulmate is someone with whom you will discover the depths of what and who is your soul.

One of the Mythologies or theories in soulmate. According to Philosopher Plato’s book entitled “The Symposium” about soulmate, “In Greek mythology, humans were originally created with 4 arms, 4 legs and a head with 2 faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search for other halves.” Based on his book, there were three genders: the men, were the children of the sun; the women, were the children of the earth; and the androgynous, were children of the moon. The gods decided to split these human in half, male and female humans, as a punishment for humanity’s pride and doubling the number of humans who would praise the gods. So, each human would feel subconscious, as if that something missing to them and they would find there half by feel unified. (http://www.netplaces.com/philosophy-book/everything-old-is-new-age-again/soul-mates.htm&http://maximumcranialexplosion.wordpress.com/2010/06/04/the-theory-of-soulmates-according-to-plato/)


Is soulmate exists in this world. According to the article entitled “Do Soulmates Really Exist?” by M. Farouk Radwan, MSc., “He was my soulmate”, ”I can never forget about him” also “Life is meaningless after I broke up with my soulmate”. People who are or were in a relationship always say these phrases and it’s very familiar. He explain these topic by example, the girl named Sarah, she has been watching romantic movies since she was 12 and this influenced thinking that that guy is already her soulmate because the similar to the ones she saw in the movies. For Sarah, her soulmate existed without a doubt. Sarah fell in love with a guy because he helped her satisfy one her satisfy one of her very important needs. But eventually they broke up. After they broke up, suddenly Sarah has no interest anymore in soulmate or in a relationship. According to him soulmate exist but only in movies. (http://www.2knowmyself.com/love_psychology/do_soul_mates_really_exist)

Many movies that related to soulmate, for example, “Upside Down” by Juan Solanas, there’s a quotation from the movie says: “True lovers are one soul that is separated when it’s born”. The movie is about the story between two people living in two planets that separating in dual gravity. The upper world consists of people who are wealthy and prosperous while lower world is poor. Eden lives in the upper world and Adam in the lower world. They fell in love with each other despite that they come from two different worlds. Adam did everything to be together with Eden, he did research and experimented to have an anti-gravity product. Finally after so many years of researching, he was able to find a solution to anti-gravity. Despite the years and challenges, they reunited and pursed their love for each other. (http://www.allmovie.com/movie/v555199)


Another movie, directed by Mark Waters entitled “Just like Heaven”, it’s a story of a woman named Elizabeth who had a car accident and a man named David who lost his wife. Elizabeth waked up but she’s already a spirit and suddenly she’s in David’s apartment. David was shocked because he can see and hear Elizabeth, and that became the start of them being always together even though they’re not compatible for each other. After along period of time being together, they found themselves attracted to one another. David helped Elizabeth to find her body which they found in a hospital. They found out that Elizabeth’s body was in coma and only life support was sustaining her life, even if they know that she’ll also die soon. David decided to steal Elizabeth’s body in the hospital and went to his friend named JJ to help him and David discovered that JJ was the ex-boyfriend of Elizabeth and the one who set the bind date between David and Elizabeth just before the accident happened. That’s why David can see Elizabeth because they were really meant to meet. When Elizabeth’s tube was accidentally removed and she’s dying, David got panic and did the CPR and surprisingly her heartbeat returns and awakens from the coma. But, Elizabeth’s doesn’t remember anything especially David. When Elizabeth has already recovered, she went to her apartment and saw David and found out that David had the spare key of her apartment and she asks him to return her key and when their hands touched, eventually she remembers everything that had happened with David while she’s in come. And that’s the start of their life as normal lover. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0425123/plotsummary)

It doesn’t matter for them if the movie is factual or fiction as long as they can relate the story itself. These days, many people love watching romantic movies especially girls. Romance movie is one of the popular kinds of movie because it focuses on passion, emotion and the affectionate romantic involvement of the main characters and the journey that are true, strong and pure romantic love, also, for the excitement, the adventure and the love between two people because of this many people believe in destiny or soulmate and influenced them that their partner right now is already their soulmate and the effect to their relationship.


So, this paper will focus on the romantic movies affect in many ways the idea of soulmate in a relationship.


Statement of a Problem
This study aims to answer the question:

1. How does a romantic movies which affect in many ways the idea of a soulmate in a relationship?


Significance of the Study

Student- is study can be beneficial to them: as a fact or additional knowledge about soulmate.

Sociology- This study can help the people who are teachers or professors of sociology class. Sociologists, who are studying on how a person behaves in their environment, this research paper can guide them to their study..

Psychology- this study can guide the psychology professors or teachers. Psychologists, who are studying Psychologists who are researching about soulmate between two people, can also help by this study.

Future Researcher- This study can help the future researchers in this field. They may use it this guide for researching more about the negative effect of soulmate in the relationship.

Scope and Delimitation

This study aims to state the romantic movies affect in many ways the idea of soulmate in a relationship. Nowadays, people believe in soulmate and the effects in the relationship. The researcher tackled the topic of psychology field, how a person thinks about soulmate in a movie.


Materials and Methods

This paper utilizes a descriptive method, which will give description and brief explanation or tips to be applied. This paper will focus on the effect of watching romantic movies affect the perception of every person in their real life relationship, assuming that the one they’re with is already their soulmate. The information related to the topic was gathered through articles or blogs and other online resources to their surveys and interview that can be found on the internet.


Definition of Terms

Soulmate- is creator takes a soul and split into two.

Androgynous- having the characteristics or nature of both male and female.

Relationship- a romantic or sexual friendship between two people.

Movie- a motion picture medium or industry.

Romance- a medieval tale based on legend, chivalric love and adventure, or the supernatural.

CHAPTER 2

DISCUSSION

A. Movies Affect Psychology

In the article, “Why do we get affected by movies?” by M. Farouk Radwan, when people watch movies they can relate to the story because it share the same scenario with them. They distinguish with the actor who resembles their life and how their emotion change.

Radwan says that:

“Subconscious mind can really differentiate between a real and an imaginary experience it usually believes that you have gone through what the actor you identified with went through (http://www.2knowmyself.com/why_do_we_get_affected_by_movies).”

People get affected by a movie because it reminds them what’s going on in their lives and the reality itself. As an example, Radwan mentioned that he had a friend who told him that she felt sorry for lambs because they were about get slaughtered and she can’t sleep because she’s thinking about the poor lambs. When he talked to his friend, he discovered that those poor lambs reminded her when she was helpless during a certain point of her life.

So, watching movies can change their emotion and maybe can provide direct clues about things that need to get solved in their lives.

In another article entitled “The Psychology of Movies,” Raymond Fo tested two group of people for three weeks. The first group watched horror movies while the second group watched religious movies. After the test, they moved to the other hall and on their way, they were being intimidated by someone. It was mentioned how both groups behaved differently. The first group tends to be arrogant while the second group was cool and understandable.

According to Eo:

“55% of youths develop new characters and behavior from movies coupled with social programming from friends and close association. (http://www.articlesfactory.com/articles/psychology/the-psychology-of-movies.html)”

Some people who watch love stories, they try to compare their relationship to the movie because it affects their present mood and their future. One day, the author met a lady who broke up with her boyfriend, he gave her two movies, a romantic movie and the lady’s favorite movie and she will report back to him. When she watched the romantic movie, her break up and pain became heavier as compared to watching her favorite movie where she began getting over with her ex boyfriend.

Watching movies can affect our beliefs and behavior in our life. It is true that if they watch some movies, they can relate to some scene of the movie and it resembles to their life and has a great impact to our life because sometimes we believe what we watch and we become very emotional.

B. Romantic Movies and convention they popularized

A popular type of a movie is the Romantic movie. According to Francis Jock, Romantic Movies are about men and women who have a passionate love and always hold to a special place. Examples of Romantic Movies that are remarkable are Romeo and Juliet, Lancelot and Guinevere, and Heloise and Abelard. These movies are very classic and they symbolize the physical passion and spiritual devotion. These movies are love stories that have tragedy scenario/stories. In Romantic Movies, the hero and heroine are always remembered and have a strong impact by the audience because they rebel against society and fight their love no matter what happens.

Francis Jock said:

"The lovers are most memorable because they are unusual; different from what we might imagine should be the correct or proper form of behavior for member of their society. (http://www.entertainmentscene360.com/index.php/romantic-movies-2-34918/)”

It is both moral and social codes of their culture and their stories are tragic because their passion alone fails to sustain them. Even though the characters and themes may change and challenges but the tragedy remains. These movies about romantic love in this generation, some movies don’t exist exclusively between men and women.

Romance films make the romantic love story or the search for strong and pure love. Romance lovers face obstacles such as finances, physical illness, and various forms of discrimination, psychological restraints or family members who threaten to break their relationship; screenwriters usually do this in order to make the romance movies more interesting. Romantic film often explore the essential themes such as love at first sight, unrequited romantic love, obsessive love, sentimental love, spiritual love and forbidden love/romance.


B.1. “You Got Mail” and Online Dating

An example of a romantic movie which is directed by Nora Ephron “You've got mail”, it is a story of an online dating. There's a woman named Kathleen Kelly, she runs the independent bookstore "The Shop around the Corner" that her mother ran before her and a man named Joe Fox he belongs to the Fox family which runs Fox Books- a chain mega bookstore similar to Borders or Barners & Noble. They are both have AOL e-mail account and It’s like an online dating service, Kathleen’s screen name is “Shopgirl” while Joe’s screen name is “NY152”. They are exchanging e-mails but they didn’t know each other personally but one day, two pass each other on the way to their work, where it is revealed that they frequent the same neighborhoods upper west Manhattan. Following day, Joe and Kathleen met and they became friends while “Shopgirl” and “NY152” still continuing their courtship online and decided to meet. Joe went at the café where he will meet “Shopgirl” but suddenly he saw Kathleen came and Joe realize that behind the screen name "Shopgirl" is Kathleen because of some misunderstanding their didn’t formally meet “NY152” and ”Shopgirl” but Joe already knows that “Shopgirl” and Kathleen is the same. For the second time, "NY152" and "Shopgirl" agree to meet again because the last time that they planned to meet was failed. Joe with his dog meets Kathleen at Riverside. Kathleen admits that she really wants to meet "NY152" and then suddenly Joe kisses her and confessed to her that he is "NY152. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0128853/synopsis)

“You’ve got mail” is one of the examples of Romantic movies. Today, online dating is one the rampant that allows singles to meet and communicate over the internet, in order to facilitate a romantic connection. In this story, sees that they are really destined for each other, besides that they know each other on online dating but accidentally met personally and they start their friendship and spend their time with one another but still clueless that they know each other as “Shopgirl” and “NY152”.

In online dating, people putting their personal/private information to the online dating services and chatting a different stranger people and people enter on online dating because they think that they can find their soulmate online, even though that they didn’t know each other personally and just communicating online.

The ideas “You Got Mail” implies might alter or change a person’s behavior in certain ways. For one, it might encourage people to seek out their soulmates online. Secondly, they might be more open to meeting strangers in the hope that these people turn out to be their soulmates.

However, such ideas may have negative consequences in certain ways. According to the article I’ve read entitled “Three Negative Aspects of Online dating” posted by Match making Tips; first, meeting a dishonest person who created fake profile and pretending for scamming other persons. Second, online dating is unromantic because it lessens physical attraction of the people involved. And lastly, online dating can take away the person’s ability to judge the other person’s behavior that can be hidden behind the online barrier. (http://matchmakingtipsblog.blogspot.com/2011/10/three-negative-aspects-of-online-dating.html)

B.2. “Serendipity” and Relying on Coincidences

Another movie popular movie about soulmates is entitled “Serendipity.” It is a story of a man named Jonathan Trager and a woman named Sara Thomas. Jonathan and Sara meet as they both try to buy the same pair of black cashmere at Bloomingdale. In their first meeting, they already feel a mutual attraction but they already in a relationship to someone. One day they meet again, Jonathan and Sara choose to go out of town together and they go to the ice skate. At the end of the night, they exchange their phone numbers together, Sara writes her number to a paper but it flies away with the wind. Sara asks Jonathan to write his name and phone number on a 5$ bill, while she writes her name and number on a book entitled “Love in the Time of Cholera”, they will try if they’re really meant to be. But Jonathan still not satisfied with that, so they go into a hotel with 28 floors and they will enter into different floors to look if they will press the same floor. They both press 23rd floor but suddenly a child enter on the elevator with Jonathan and unluckily the child press all the buttons, so they didn’t see each other and the two believe that they’re really not meant to be. Many years later, Jonathan and Sara are already getting married but in different person but as their wedding dates approach, they feel liked they are something missing to them and decide to comeback to New York in an attempt to find each other. One night, Sara comes back to her hotel, where she see her fiancé named Lars, while she’s with Lars she sees a Cassiopeia in the sky and breaks her engagement with Lars. And then, Halley, fiancé of Jonathan, gives her a book entitled “Love in the Time of Cholera” as a gift which Sara wrote her name and phone number, and he noticed that it is the copy that Sara had written in and he immediately fined Sara. Sara decides to go back home, while she’s in a plane she finds that her wallet have 5$ bill and realize that she has the same 5$ bill which Jonathan wrote on several years earlier and she gets off the plane to find Jonathan. Sara goes to the hotel where’s Jonathan getting married and the man says that the wedding was called off. Later, Sara remembered that she left her jacket in the park and luckily Jonathan is also in the park and he finds Sara’s jacket, when snowflake drops, he sees Sara. And know, they are really in a relationship. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0240890/synopsis)

It is another story of romantic movies that focus in soulmate. If people see a person that feel an unexplainable connection to that person and feel like knees-turn-into-jellies or butterflies in stomach it means that person is your soulmate and believe with that. Sometimes, when people are in a relationship and think that person is already their soulmate but when their relationship break and left a scar to their heart, the result is they don’t want to fall in love again and they will not believe again in love.

The idea promoted in this film is to rely on coincidences. The characters in the movie always meet by chance. And the movie implies that if you often bump into someone, there’s a possibility that you’re soulmates.

This idea might change a person’s attitude or behavior. For example, if they always bump to each other they believe that they are really meant to be.

This idea may have negative consequences in certain ways. First, people who rely in the belief that a coincidence is one way to find their soulmate can be deceiving. Second , some people might use this belief to create feelings to other person and control that person.





B.3 Disney Characters

“The Little Mermaid” is one of the popular movies in Disney Princesses. There’s a girl mermaid and sees a handsome prince on ship and fall in love with him from a distance. One night, there’s a storm and hit the Prince ship and he fall in the sea and the girl mermaid save her from drowning and bring him to the shore near a temple. She waits until a young girl from the temple finds him. The girl mermaid really want to become a human and want to see the prince, and then Sea witch give her a potion to become a human in exchange to her voice and the girl mermaid drink it. When she wakes up she’s already in the shore and has beautiful legs. Then suddenly the prince sees her and he’s mesmerized by her beauty even though that she can’t talk. When the prince’s father said that he will marry the neighboring king’s daughter and the prince said that he can’t marry the princess because he doesn’t love her and who he really wants to marry is the girl from the temple who saved him but the girl he’s talking about is the princess and then the wedding is announced. So, the prince and princess marry, the girl mermaid’ heart breaks. She thinks of all that she has given up and of all the pain she has suffered and waited her deaths, but before it happen, her sisters bring her a knife and said that she need to slays the prince using the knife and lets his blood drip on her feet, she will become a mermaid again. However, the girl mermaid has no strength to kill the prince and she throws her self into the sea but before he dies her father save her. Then the Sea witch and her father fight, and the prince already know the truth that the girl mermaid was the one who saved him. When the fight end, one day, the girl mermaid and the prince marry and live happily ever after. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097757/synopsis)

The idea of Disney Princesses believe that Prince charming, love at first sight, forever and live happily ever after exists to the real world. These words are very popular until now, even though we knew that it doesn’t exist to our real world, people still believe that their life can be like the fairy tales wherein they can live happily ever after.

Negative consequences can occur to people living in the lies of fairy tales. For instance, if they believe that Prince charming or Princess is real, when they are in a relationship they will think that their partner is already their soulmate and they will assume that their relationship will last forever or a life time.

CHAPTER 3



SUMMARY, CONCLUSIONS AND RECOMMENDATIONS

Summary

This paper attempted to determine the considerations made by romantic movies which affect in many ways the idea of a soulmate in a relationship.

1.  The research design used in this study is the descriptive method where data from several different online articles and a survey was used to answer the following research question that was stated. The research finds are the following:


2. In the mythology of the idea of a soulmate, humans were split into a half, the male and the female humans. Each human should find their half by feeling unified.


3. Watching romantic affects what people believe about soulmates and influence their ideas and behavior in their own real-life relationships.



Conclusion

Based on the finding of the study, the following conclusions are made:


1. Watching movie can affect emotions of a person by resembling and reminding them about their lives and the reality itself.

2. Movie can change the behavior of a person depending upon the genre and sometimes they apply to others what they see and hear.


3. Whatever genre of a movie people watched like romantic movie, people would believe what they see and hear.


4. In present generation, technologies can be used as a dating material to find their soulmate but it can bring danger since online dating can hide the true behavior of a person.


5. People who rely in the belief that coincidences can be the way to find their soulmate can be deceiving since they can be fooled by other person and control them.


6. Fairy tales let us escape the reality and make us live in the world full of lies where happily ever after can exist.


Recommendation
After stating the conclusions of the study, the research will now make the following suggestions and recommendations:


1. Watching movie is not bad but sometimes we should not believe what we see and hear in the movie because it will affect our beliefs and behavior.


2. People should know the difference between reality and imagination. For example, if they’re in a relationship and they love watching romantic movie sometimes they wanted to happen to them also.


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BlogPost8: Same-sex Relationship

Is soulmate for opposite sex only? or also same sex? We know that in our generation, many people now who are in relationships or sometimes people who are married with their same sex. We cannot change the fact that people are affected by the change in the environment. If we see someone who is gay or lesbian, we always judge them by their looks and appearances. It means that we are still not yet used to the reality that even same sex can fall in love.

Moving on, there is actually a Filipino movie directed by Olivia Lamasan entitled "In My Life", it is a story of same sex relationship of two men namely Mark Salvacion and Noel Villanueva. Mark and Noel lived in the same roof in America and surprisingly, Mark's mom, Shirley, surprised his son that she will move in with him in the States(with Mark). Shirley was aware of Mark's homosexuality since his high school years. Upon her arrival to the States, Shirley is picked up at the airport by Noel and she thinks that he was only hired to help her. When the arrive to the apartment of his son, she notices some pictures of Mark and Noel being affectionate towards each other. She then realized that Noel and Mark is in a relationship. It reflects how Shirley changes her attitude and how she views the relationship of two men and how she accepts the reality. She sees how happy Mark and Noel and how they really love each other.

Sometimes we should accept the fact that, not only men and women who lives in this world can fall in love but also the third sex. They also also humans who fall in love like a normal people do, believe it or not, there are also who are meant to be with their life time partner.

BlogPost7: Meant to be?

Are you sure the man/woman besides you is really your soulmate? We didn’t know, only time knows if he/she’s the one who meant to us and will be our partner in life. We fall in love to someone and sometimes we already think he/she’s the one and this will be forever. But are you really sure if he/she’s the one, that really meant for you? Or he/she’s another person that will be part of your life?

In the article of “Signs your Relationship is Meant to be” by Ria Lawrence. If you imagine and picture yourself with your partner in the future with a house and children, it means you’re planning yourself already to be with your partner in the future. You imagine what your house look, you want like this or like that and you want to have a two to five children. In every relationship, there are always an arguments and some disagreement for something but if you resolve your issues with a mature manner and resolve it easily or quickly without resentments it means you’re really compatible each other and easily to resolve the issue easily. Respect each other like honor your boundaries, understand them if he/she have no time to you because they have also things they need to do. Being respected doesn't mean your needs always take priority over your partner’s. Compromise provides a relationship the flexibility it needs to keep from ripping apart and be considerate. And you accept him/her who or what he/she are.



But from the movie “500 days of Summer” directed by Marc Webb, it is story of

Tom Hansen and Summer Finn, they meet in greeting card company. When Tom saw Summer, he got suddenly attracted to her and thought that they meant for each other even though they only just met. During the next few months they got closer and everyday they always together like a couple. Then suddenly Tom confessed to Summer that he loves her, but Summer don’t believe in true love because of his past relationship. But Tom don’t gave up and do everything for her and they always together, even though they not really official couple but they have a mutual understanding. After several months of dating, they have their first argument because Tom saw a man who flirted Summer and they got into a fight. On day 290, Summer and Tom suddenly end their relationship, Tom hurt so badly because he really love Summer. Tom didn’t accept that they already broke up and he always drunk and not in his self anymore. Months later, Tom and Summer saw each other to their co-worker wedding and talk again. Tom saw Summer’s hand wearing an engagement ring, Tom again always drunk and very depress that Summer is already engaged to someone. Tom quit to his job and decided to rededicate himself to become an architect, makes a list of firms, and begins to attend interviews. On day 488, Tom and Summer saw each other again after a months, and they talk what happen to them this past few months. Summer said that Tom was right that true love really exist and she discovered in someone else all the feelings she had never been sure about with Tom. Before they say goodbye to each other, Summer said that she was glad to see Tom Doing well and Tom replied that he really hopes that Summer is happy. Twelve days later, Tom was going to a job interview and suddenly met a woman named Autumn and they really common for their likes and dislike and they are comfortable each other.


In our life, we meet many people and enter a relationship and thought that these are forever. We should not think of word forever because we’re the one who will get hurt in the end. We should be happy because we have a chance to fall in love with someone and even though you broke up, always think that he/she's just part of you're life that will teach you something and it's part of growing up. Who knows, your next relationship will be the man/women that really meant for you.

BlogPost 6: Does Age Really Matter in a relationship?

"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." - Mark Twain

Is age matter to a relationship? Every one of us has a ideals, I want a man/woman like this or like that. Like me, I want a man who is older than me like 2-4 years of gap because he is more mature, manly and someone you can depend on. We know that, many people who are in a relationship that is younger or older than them, but it should have a legal age. We have different opinion in that topic; others believe that, age doesn't matter as long as you love each other but in the other side, they don’t believe in that because they see it in a wrong way. We know that, every relationship have positive and negative. But does age really matter in a relationship?

To the article “Does Age Really Matter in Love and Romance” by Mackenzie Wright, he said older man or woman is often stereotyped predatory, manipulative, shallow and superficial and the younger man or woman is often stereotyped as being insecure, clingy, gold-digging and desperate. He said “The fact is there’s nothing in the universe that says two people of different ages can’t truly get along and care for each other. When it comes to your relationship, forget what everyone else is saying and consider it for yourself.” In dating, it’s ok as long as both of them are in legally adults. It’s not a sin dating in different age and has a little fun together. You can build a new experience and share different things or your perspectives in life and learn new things like appreciate each others generation. If you and that person are dating you feel something more maybe you should think of it not the age but what you feel for that person and level up your relationship. Being in different places in life, you should set your goal with that person. For example, the younger person want settling down and having kids or just starting a career like in business while the older person may have already a children and who wants someone is available and want to spend her/his time by traveling and in every relationship there’s always an obstacle not because of the age issue but the reaction of the people around you especially the parents. You should tell them that, that’s you decision and it’s not of their business anymore as long as you love each other and don’t mind what other people say.

Another article “Does Age Really Matter in a Relationship?” by Irsan Kao, if people fall in love it doesn’t matter what age it is, but the problem is the people around you that they don’t accept your relationship. There’s a saying “Age doesn’t matter in love”, many people believe in that and who are married despite the age gap and surpass the circumstances of their relationship. For some relationship, with an age gap will still work depending on the situation. It also depends on the outlook in life, the people around you and how you will handle the situation. Older men like younger woman because they find them more attractive while younger women like older men because they’re more mature and confidence and they want someone who can understand them and that can depend on or that will guide them, because they’re more experience than younger people. If you plan to enter in an age gap relationship, you should both adjust each other to any situation. Both of you should be open in every situation so that you can easy resolve the problem and don’t mind what your family and friends say about to your relationship and don’t let this discourage you. You should prove that you’re happy with this relationship and you can handle it no matter what happen and you really love that person despite of the age.



In love, age doesn't matter as long as you love that person and you can fight your relationship to everyone and prove to them. Always have a positive attitude in your relationship and try to be understanding as you can be. Many people married despite the age gap and they really happy. Love conquers all. In love, there are no boundaries as long as you love each other and face the circumstances come to you.

BlogPost5: The Other Side of "Distance"

In every relationship the most conflict situation is the long distance relationship. Long-distance Relationship is typically an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by a considerable distance. Many relationship breaks because of long-distance relationship because of he problem in communication, time and the important in a relationship is trust. I have a friend that have Long distance relationship, she said it’s very hard because they have no time for each other because of their conflicting schedule, she didn’t know if what is he doing right now and who were with him. So, many questions that comes to her mind.

To the article of "Long Distance Relationship can Strengthen Romantic Bonds" by Richard Gray. According to his study Long distance relationship can lead to couples become closer and developing stronger bonds even though they are far away for each other rather than normal relationship because those who live in apart and don't see each other always is more intimate. In our new generation technologies is more efficient and effective to communicate to someone wherever you are. “People don't have to be so pessimistic about long-distance romance. Long-distance couples try harder than geographically close couples in communicating affection and intimacy, and their efforts do pay back.” Long Distance relationship is more open and honest and talks longer than normal couple. They always share their thoughts, feelings and emotions. For his example, there's couple who are apart from each other, David Beckham and his wife Victoria. David is at LA while Victoria is at London, they've been in a relationship in 11 years and they neither bored for each other nor fade their love for each other but they're more intimate and trust and satisfaction.

"Long-distance love may be stronger than you think" by Melissa Dahl.To her article long distance is more stronger than couples who are not far away because they are more emotional and closer to their partner. According to the survey many couples who are in long distance relationship. There's a couple named Nicole Kendrot and Richard Smith from Rochester, N.Y and starting dating Suddenly Nicole offered her to work in New York to become a web designer 333 miles and six hours drive to Rochester. She's hesitating to but she felt like she had to accept the job in New York. And when Nicole moved to New York and still dating in a long distance. For Richard it's not very hard for them because there's a Google+ to chat and video chat. They talked longer and share there thoughts and feeling. According to them having a long distance relationship is hard to interact with their partner less often but they have a great intimacy that refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. Not just communicating to your partner but also makes some effort. Even though you’re far away if you really miss a person will make an effort to talk with him/her or do anything, it means you really like or love him/her because if you don’t do some effort it will stop your communication for each other.

If I heard the word Long distance relationship I always think the negative side that the relationship will not work out. Now I know that having a long distance relationship is not very hard and have a positive side also that makes relationship stronger. It doesn’t matter how long the distance that separating the two of you, the important is you love each other and no matter what circumstances come to your relationship you should fight it together and if u survive it means you’re really meant for each other. The important is you always have a communication and trust for each other.

BlogPost4: Finding your Soulmate

When you are ready to find your soulmate, will you know him? Will there be something that makes you feel like you have known him forever? All of us dreams to find the right man that will make us happy and feel complete. We will meet many people in our life and throughout our journey but we will only have one soulmate. Finding your soulmate means making a pact with each other sometime in the past to find each other in the future.
How do we find our soulmate?

The article "Finding your Soulmate" by Dr. Raymond Angelini, he said that before you find the right person, you should be the right person involved first by foremost knowing yourself. You should know first your ideals and interest so that it’s easier for you to find the right person. You should be open and honest to your positive and negative qualities; you should remove or acknowledge your negative qualities, it means you’re willing to clean your bad habits and become the person you wanted to be. And you should be true to yourself and to everyone to accept you who or what you are. You should not be afraid being alone just

because you still don’t find your soulmate. You should still be happy and don’t be so eager to find it. Dr. Raymond said “You must remember that fear clouds your judgment; it prevents us from both finding and being with the right person.” Don’t date a person just for the sake of the word “dating”. You should take dating a person seriously, for dating can be enjoyable and useful experience and it’s an opportunity to explore and observe if the person you are dating has the qualities you are looking for. And don’t listen to your ego because it’s not really who you are. Also, start listening to your spirit because that’s who you are at the core of your heart. If you hope to find your soulmate, you must consult your inner source of wisdom that knows better than we do which will be most likely to make us happy.

Another article entitled "The Secret to Finding your Soulmate" by Ariadne Green. According to her to find your soulmate you should find your heart by forgiving other people and let go everything what your heart feel like grief, attachment or resentment. And find yourself first so that you can love again and you can find your soulmate. You should know what's you ideal type but we know that sometimes we fell in love to our opposite attraction but it's just like a references to us so that it's more easy to us to find our soulmate. Don't believe that even if you're come from a broken family it doesn’t mean you will have a broken family too, so your afraid to fall in love because of what happen. You should not believe that belief because it's more harder to you to fall in love. Steer your life goals in to higher purpose you should develop your self by to serve humanity together and walk on parallel paths until your ready to find your soulmate. Destiny can only tell if who, where and when you will meet your soulmate, you should understand and don't be so eager. Sometimes we already see our soulmate in our dreams, we should recognize them clear and maybe that's the sign or message because suddenly we didn't know we already see him/her somewhere.

 

Finding your soulmate requires a lot of patience. Don’t feel despair or become frustrated if you don’t find him yet because only destiny can tell if it’s already the right time for you both to meet each other. And you should be wise to not be blinded by infatuation and avoid those make you swoon. Finding your soulmate can be the best journey you will ever make. So, don’t give up and just enjoy the ride.

Blogpost3: Are Soulmate for real?

When we were just little, we were made to believe that soulmates exist. I for one believed that my soulmate is just waiting for me out there, at the right time, at the right place. My friends and I would always talk about our crushes – our similarities, interests, their whereabouts, their features, their characters

and the way they would look into our eyes. For once, this strengthened our belief that soulmates really exist. But do soulmates really exist?


In the article "Do Soulmate exist?", author Gaol Auzeen Saedi asked a group of people if they believe in soulmates. They answered they don’t believe in soulmates, instead they believe in lifemates. One female respondent remembered her relationship in the past and how she got brokenhearted. She also reminisced when she met a man who was truly remarkable. “He was one of the good guys. Smart, funny, and most of all, kind. He was one of those whose soul you just knew was pure. He allowed me to believe in the goodness of men again” she said. They became together but broke up in the end.

We have the notion that if we find someone, we already consider them as our soulmates. In every relationship, there is dating, a breakup, maybe even a rebound. There is crying, anger, sadness, shock, and any number of emotions related to the experience of loss and grief. That’s part of growing up and finding our real soulmate that will become your partner forever. Open your heart and take the chance to fall in love again.

Another article I found is "Do Really Soulmate exist?" by M.Farouk Radwan, MSc. For him, soulmates don’t exist. In the author’s story, Sarah the main character, was young and didn’t get attention from her father. She didn’t know the feeling of having a father’s love. She grew up believing that she’s not important. She became so emotional and unconscious of herself. One day she met a handsome guy, a very kind one and that possessed similar facial features as her father. She started liking him and she thought that he’s

already her soulmate.

Sarah has been watching romantic movies since she was 12 and this influenced her thinking that this guy is already her soulmate because the feelings she got was really similar to the ones she saw in the movies. For Sarah, her soulmate existed without a doubt. Sarah fell in love with him because he helped her satisfy one of her very important needs. She always wanted her father to care for her and now she met someone who looks like her father who can take care of her. But eventually they broke up. After the break up, Sarah started building her self-confidence. She joined a 6-month confidence building course and there she was taught to feel good about herself even if nobody appreciated her. Suddenly she’s not losing interest in soulmates and getting into a relationship.

I beleive that it doesn’t matter if soulmates exist or not. The important thing is we find our lifetime partner. It doesn’t mean that if you fail once in your relationship, it’s already the end of the world. It just means you’re not really meant for each other and you just have to take the positive side and be happy. These things happen and we need to learn and grow ourselves into whole, loving human being. The willingness to take this commitment on and share it with another is much greater when we recognize the value and preciousness of such an agreement. And we didn’t know our next commitment will be our last and and if he is really meant for you.