"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." - Mark Twain
Is age matter to a relationship? Every one of us has a ideals, I want a man/woman like this or like that. Like me, I want a man who is older than me like 2-4 years of gap because he is more mature, manly and someone you can depend on. We know that, many people who are in a relationship that is younger or older than them, but it should have a legal age. We have different opinion in that topic; others believe that, age doesn't matter as long as you love each other but in the other side, they don’t believe in that because they see it in a wrong way. We know that, every relationship have positive and negative. But does age really matter in a relationship?
To the article “Does Age Really Matter in Love and Romance” by Mackenzie Wright, he said older man or woman is often stereotyped predatory, manipulative, shallow and superficial and the younger man or woman is often stereotyped as being insecure, clingy, gold-digging and desperate. He said “The fact is there’s nothing in the universe that says two people of different ages can’t truly get along and care for each other. When it comes to your relationship, forget what everyone else is saying and consider it for yourself.” In dating, it’s ok as long as both of them are in legally adults. It’s not a sin dating in different age and has a little fun together. You can build a new experience and share different things or your perspectives in life and learn new things like appreciate each others generation. If you and that person are dating you feel something more maybe you should think of it not the age but what you feel for that person and level up your relationship. Being in different places in life, you should set your goal with that person. For example, the younger person want settling down and having kids or just starting a career like in business while the older person may have already a children and who wants someone is available and want to spend her/his time by traveling and in every relationship there’s always an obstacle not because of the age issue but the reaction of the people around you especially the parents. You should tell them that, that’s you decision and it’s not of their business anymore as long as you love each other and don’t mind what other people say.
Another article “Does Age Really Matter in a Relationship?” by Irsan Kao, if people fall in love it doesn’t matter what age it is, but the problem is the people around you that they don’t accept your relationship. There’s a saying “Age doesn’t matter in love”, many people believe in that and who are married despite the age gap and surpass the circumstances of their relationship. For some relationship, with an age gap will still work depending on the situation. It also depends on the outlook in life, the people around you and how you will handle the situation. Older men like younger woman because they find them more attractive while younger women like older men because they’re more mature and confidence and they want someone who can understand them and that can depend on or that will guide them, because they’re more experience than younger people. If you plan to enter in an age gap relationship, you should both adjust each other to any situation. Both of you should be open in every situation so that you can easy resolve the problem and don’t mind what your family and friends say about to your relationship and don’t let this discourage you. You should prove that you’re happy with this relationship and you can handle it no matter what happen and you really love that person despite of the age.
In love, age doesn't matter as long as you love that person and you can fight your relationship to everyone and prove to them. Always have a positive attitude in your relationship and try to be understanding as you can be. Many people married despite the age gap and they really happy. Love conquers all. In love, there are no boundaries as long as you love each other and face the circumstances come to you.
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