BlogPost7: Meant to be?

Are you sure the man/woman besides you is really your soulmate? We didn’t know, only time knows if he/she’s the one who meant to us and will be our partner in life. We fall in love to someone and sometimes we already think he/she’s the one and this will be forever. But are you really sure if he/she’s the one, that really meant for you? Or he/she’s another person that will be part of your life?

In the article of “Signs your Relationship is Meant to be” by Ria Lawrence. If you imagine and picture yourself with your partner in the future with a house and children, it means you’re planning yourself already to be with your partner in the future. You imagine what your house look, you want like this or like that and you want to have a two to five children. In every relationship, there are always an arguments and some disagreement for something but if you resolve your issues with a mature manner and resolve it easily or quickly without resentments it means you’re really compatible each other and easily to resolve the issue easily. Respect each other like honor your boundaries, understand them if he/she have no time to you because they have also things they need to do. Being respected doesn't mean your needs always take priority over your partner’s. Compromise provides a relationship the flexibility it needs to keep from ripping apart and be considerate. And you accept him/her who or what he/she are.



But from the movie “500 days of Summer” directed by Marc Webb, it is story of

Tom Hansen and Summer Finn, they meet in greeting card company. When Tom saw Summer, he got suddenly attracted to her and thought that they meant for each other even though they only just met. During the next few months they got closer and everyday they always together like a couple. Then suddenly Tom confessed to Summer that he loves her, but Summer don’t believe in true love because of his past relationship. But Tom don’t gave up and do everything for her and they always together, even though they not really official couple but they have a mutual understanding. After several months of dating, they have their first argument because Tom saw a man who flirted Summer and they got into a fight. On day 290, Summer and Tom suddenly end their relationship, Tom hurt so badly because he really love Summer. Tom didn’t accept that they already broke up and he always drunk and not in his self anymore. Months later, Tom and Summer saw each other to their co-worker wedding and talk again. Tom saw Summer’s hand wearing an engagement ring, Tom again always drunk and very depress that Summer is already engaged to someone. Tom quit to his job and decided to rededicate himself to become an architect, makes a list of firms, and begins to attend interviews. On day 488, Tom and Summer saw each other again after a months, and they talk what happen to them this past few months. Summer said that Tom was right that true love really exist and she discovered in someone else all the feelings she had never been sure about with Tom. Before they say goodbye to each other, Summer said that she was glad to see Tom Doing well and Tom replied that he really hopes that Summer is happy. Twelve days later, Tom was going to a job interview and suddenly met a woman named Autumn and they really common for their likes and dislike and they are comfortable each other.


In our life, we meet many people and enter a relationship and thought that these are forever. We should not think of word forever because we’re the one who will get hurt in the end. We should be happy because we have a chance to fall in love with someone and even though you broke up, always think that he/she's just part of you're life that will teach you something and it's part of growing up. Who knows, your next relationship will be the man/women that really meant for you.

BlogPost 6: Does Age Really Matter in a relationship?

"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." - Mark Twain

Is age matter to a relationship? Every one of us has a ideals, I want a man/woman like this or like that. Like me, I want a man who is older than me like 2-4 years of gap because he is more mature, manly and someone you can depend on. We know that, many people who are in a relationship that is younger or older than them, but it should have a legal age. We have different opinion in that topic; others believe that, age doesn't matter as long as you love each other but in the other side, they don’t believe in that because they see it in a wrong way. We know that, every relationship have positive and negative. But does age really matter in a relationship?

To the article “Does Age Really Matter in Love and Romance” by Mackenzie Wright, he said older man or woman is often stereotyped predatory, manipulative, shallow and superficial and the younger man or woman is often stereotyped as being insecure, clingy, gold-digging and desperate. He said “The fact is there’s nothing in the universe that says two people of different ages can’t truly get along and care for each other. When it comes to your relationship, forget what everyone else is saying and consider it for yourself.” In dating, it’s ok as long as both of them are in legally adults. It’s not a sin dating in different age and has a little fun together. You can build a new experience and share different things or your perspectives in life and learn new things like appreciate each others generation. If you and that person are dating you feel something more maybe you should think of it not the age but what you feel for that person and level up your relationship. Being in different places in life, you should set your goal with that person. For example, the younger person want settling down and having kids or just starting a career like in business while the older person may have already a children and who wants someone is available and want to spend her/his time by traveling and in every relationship there’s always an obstacle not because of the age issue but the reaction of the people around you especially the parents. You should tell them that, that’s you decision and it’s not of their business anymore as long as you love each other and don’t mind what other people say.

Another article “Does Age Really Matter in a Relationship?” by Irsan Kao, if people fall in love it doesn’t matter what age it is, but the problem is the people around you that they don’t accept your relationship. There’s a saying “Age doesn’t matter in love”, many people believe in that and who are married despite the age gap and surpass the circumstances of their relationship. For some relationship, with an age gap will still work depending on the situation. It also depends on the outlook in life, the people around you and how you will handle the situation. Older men like younger woman because they find them more attractive while younger women like older men because they’re more mature and confidence and they want someone who can understand them and that can depend on or that will guide them, because they’re more experience than younger people. If you plan to enter in an age gap relationship, you should both adjust each other to any situation. Both of you should be open in every situation so that you can easy resolve the problem and don’t mind what your family and friends say about to your relationship and don’t let this discourage you. You should prove that you’re happy with this relationship and you can handle it no matter what happen and you really love that person despite of the age.



In love, age doesn't matter as long as you love that person and you can fight your relationship to everyone and prove to them. Always have a positive attitude in your relationship and try to be understanding as you can be. Many people married despite the age gap and they really happy. Love conquers all. In love, there are no boundaries as long as you love each other and face the circumstances come to you.

BlogPost5: The Other Side of "Distance"

In every relationship the most conflict situation is the long distance relationship. Long-distance Relationship is typically an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by a considerable distance. Many relationship breaks because of long-distance relationship because of he problem in communication, time and the important in a relationship is trust. I have a friend that have Long distance relationship, she said it’s very hard because they have no time for each other because of their conflicting schedule, she didn’t know if what is he doing right now and who were with him. So, many questions that comes to her mind.

To the article of "Long Distance Relationship can Strengthen Romantic Bonds" by Richard Gray. According to his study Long distance relationship can lead to couples become closer and developing stronger bonds even though they are far away for each other rather than normal relationship because those who live in apart and don't see each other always is more intimate. In our new generation technologies is more efficient and effective to communicate to someone wherever you are. “People don't have to be so pessimistic about long-distance romance. Long-distance couples try harder than geographically close couples in communicating affection and intimacy, and their efforts do pay back.” Long Distance relationship is more open and honest and talks longer than normal couple. They always share their thoughts, feelings and emotions. For his example, there's couple who are apart from each other, David Beckham and his wife Victoria. David is at LA while Victoria is at London, they've been in a relationship in 11 years and they neither bored for each other nor fade their love for each other but they're more intimate and trust and satisfaction.

"Long-distance love may be stronger than you think" by Melissa Dahl.To her article long distance is more stronger than couples who are not far away because they are more emotional and closer to their partner. According to the survey many couples who are in long distance relationship. There's a couple named Nicole Kendrot and Richard Smith from Rochester, N.Y and starting dating Suddenly Nicole offered her to work in New York to become a web designer 333 miles and six hours drive to Rochester. She's hesitating to but she felt like she had to accept the job in New York. And when Nicole moved to New York and still dating in a long distance. For Richard it's not very hard for them because there's a Google+ to chat and video chat. They talked longer and share there thoughts and feeling. According to them having a long distance relationship is hard to interact with their partner less often but they have a great intimacy that refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. Not just communicating to your partner but also makes some effort. Even though you’re far away if you really miss a person will make an effort to talk with him/her or do anything, it means you really like or love him/her because if you don’t do some effort it will stop your communication for each other.

If I heard the word Long distance relationship I always think the negative side that the relationship will not work out. Now I know that having a long distance relationship is not very hard and have a positive side also that makes relationship stronger. It doesn’t matter how long the distance that separating the two of you, the important is you love each other and no matter what circumstances come to your relationship you should fight it together and if u survive it means you’re really meant for each other. The important is you always have a communication and trust for each other.

BlogPost4: Finding your Soulmate

When you are ready to find your soulmate, will you know him? Will there be something that makes you feel like you have known him forever? All of us dreams to find the right man that will make us happy and feel complete. We will meet many people in our life and throughout our journey but we will only have one soulmate. Finding your soulmate means making a pact with each other sometime in the past to find each other in the future.
How do we find our soulmate?

The article "Finding your Soulmate" by Dr. Raymond Angelini, he said that before you find the right person, you should be the right person involved first by foremost knowing yourself. You should know first your ideals and interest so that it’s easier for you to find the right person. You should be open and honest to your positive and negative qualities; you should remove or acknowledge your negative qualities, it means you’re willing to clean your bad habits and become the person you wanted to be. And you should be true to yourself and to everyone to accept you who or what you are. You should not be afraid being alone just

because you still don’t find your soulmate. You should still be happy and don’t be so eager to find it. Dr. Raymond said “You must remember that fear clouds your judgment; it prevents us from both finding and being with the right person.” Don’t date a person just for the sake of the word “dating”. You should take dating a person seriously, for dating can be enjoyable and useful experience and it’s an opportunity to explore and observe if the person you are dating has the qualities you are looking for. And don’t listen to your ego because it’s not really who you are. Also, start listening to your spirit because that’s who you are at the core of your heart. If you hope to find your soulmate, you must consult your inner source of wisdom that knows better than we do which will be most likely to make us happy.

Another article entitled "The Secret to Finding your Soulmate" by Ariadne Green. According to her to find your soulmate you should find your heart by forgiving other people and let go everything what your heart feel like grief, attachment or resentment. And find yourself first so that you can love again and you can find your soulmate. You should know what's you ideal type but we know that sometimes we fell in love to our opposite attraction but it's just like a references to us so that it's more easy to us to find our soulmate. Don't believe that even if you're come from a broken family it doesn’t mean you will have a broken family too, so your afraid to fall in love because of what happen. You should not believe that belief because it's more harder to you to fall in love. Steer your life goals in to higher purpose you should develop your self by to serve humanity together and walk on parallel paths until your ready to find your soulmate. Destiny can only tell if who, where and when you will meet your soulmate, you should understand and don't be so eager. Sometimes we already see our soulmate in our dreams, we should recognize them clear and maybe that's the sign or message because suddenly we didn't know we already see him/her somewhere.

 

Finding your soulmate requires a lot of patience. Don’t feel despair or become frustrated if you don’t find him yet because only destiny can tell if it’s already the right time for you both to meet each other. And you should be wise to not be blinded by infatuation and avoid those make you swoon. Finding your soulmate can be the best journey you will ever make. So, don’t give up and just enjoy the ride.

Blogpost3: Are Soulmate for real?

When we were just little, we were made to believe that soulmates exist. I for one believed that my soulmate is just waiting for me out there, at the right time, at the right place. My friends and I would always talk about our crushes – our similarities, interests, their whereabouts, their features, their characters

and the way they would look into our eyes. For once, this strengthened our belief that soulmates really exist. But do soulmates really exist?


In the article "Do Soulmate exist?", author Gaol Auzeen Saedi asked a group of people if they believe in soulmates. They answered they don’t believe in soulmates, instead they believe in lifemates. One female respondent remembered her relationship in the past and how she got brokenhearted. She also reminisced when she met a man who was truly remarkable. “He was one of the good guys. Smart, funny, and most of all, kind. He was one of those whose soul you just knew was pure. He allowed me to believe in the goodness of men again” she said. They became together but broke up in the end.

We have the notion that if we find someone, we already consider them as our soulmates. In every relationship, there is dating, a breakup, maybe even a rebound. There is crying, anger, sadness, shock, and any number of emotions related to the experience of loss and grief. That’s part of growing up and finding our real soulmate that will become your partner forever. Open your heart and take the chance to fall in love again.

Another article I found is "Do Really Soulmate exist?" by M.Farouk Radwan, MSc. For him, soulmates don’t exist. In the author’s story, Sarah the main character, was young and didn’t get attention from her father. She didn’t know the feeling of having a father’s love. She grew up believing that she’s not important. She became so emotional and unconscious of herself. One day she met a handsome guy, a very kind one and that possessed similar facial features as her father. She started liking him and she thought that he’s

already her soulmate.

Sarah has been watching romantic movies since she was 12 and this influenced her thinking that this guy is already her soulmate because the feelings she got was really similar to the ones she saw in the movies. For Sarah, her soulmate existed without a doubt. Sarah fell in love with him because he helped her satisfy one of her very important needs. She always wanted her father to care for her and now she met someone who looks like her father who can take care of her. But eventually they broke up. After the break up, Sarah started building her self-confidence. She joined a 6-month confidence building course and there she was taught to feel good about herself even if nobody appreciated her. Suddenly she’s not losing interest in soulmates and getting into a relationship.

I beleive that it doesn’t matter if soulmates exist or not. The important thing is we find our lifetime partner. It doesn’t mean that if you fail once in your relationship, it’s already the end of the world. It just means you’re not really meant for each other and you just have to take the positive side and be happy. These things happen and we need to learn and grow ourselves into whole, loving human being. The willingness to take this commitment on and share it with another is much greater when we recognize the value and preciousness of such an agreement. And we didn’t know our next commitment will be our last and and if he is really meant for you.

BlogPost2: Forbidden Love

              Have you already found your soulmate? Have you asked yourself if he/she’s already the one? Are you compatible with him/her? Your answer could be yes or a resounding no. Or no idea at all.

Some people believe in happy ending and forever. Do these really exist in the first place? We find the one by entering in a commitment by courtship, and people sometimes say that they are really meant to be but you didn’t know that in every relationship there’s circumstances like you need to break up because of some reasons but you love each other but you need to set them free for a while. There’s a saying “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours.” I believed in this once but I realized that we’re really meant for each other. Sometimes you fall in love with the wrong people even though you love each other but there’s a hindrance. It’s either you will fight your love or not.

In the article "What to do with Forbidden Love?" by Katherine Feeney, forbidden love is defined as a love that’s not allowed or permitted. Like in this article, it’s like you meet someone you really like, you always think of him, you hang out together until you fall in love with him, suddenly you’ll find out he’s already committed. So what will you do?“Tell your lover you’re in love with someone else. Tell him that you’re in love with her. It’s the honest thing to do. It’s easier said than done, of course. What if you’re left alone, rebuked, rejected and responsible for wreaking harm and hurt and unhappiness?”

There’s a story of this girl who fell in love with a guy who is in a relationship.They hangout together.One night,she texted the guy to meet her up. She’s very nervous because she’s already in love with him and she felt uneasy because she knows that he’s already in a relationship with someone else and she’s thinking of confessing that she likes him. When they got both drunk, the guy suddenly confesses that he also likes the girl and that the feeling is mutual. The guy left after the confession and never showed up to

the girl. The girl keeps on texting and finding out what’s wrong but to no avail. Until she finds out that the guy chose his relationship with his current girlfriend.
In life, we really have to let go and choose despite the fact that some feelings will get hurt. And fact of the matter is, the guy chose the relationship which he thinks isn’t forbidden even though he loves the girl.

In the movie “Avatar” by James Cameron, humans went to Pandora to look for resources that Earth is lacking. Jake who controls an avatar, meets Neytir, a female Na’vi and they fall in love with each other. Jake joined the Na’vi society in order to be accepted by their society and they accepted him and he

should gather intelligence on them and the home tree. But the Na’vi discovered he’s not one of them and they learned that he deceived themand planning to destroy their place and they think that people and them are not compatible. Jake defended himself but no one believed him,even Neytir. Jake didn’t give up and indeed helped the Na’vis fight the humans. Little by little, he has gained Neytir’s trust until they’ve won the battle. When Jake got hit and almost died, the Na’vis decided to transfer his spirit/soul to his avatar in order for him to live and be with Neytir.He sacrificed himself and became an avatar to forever be a part of the Na’vi society.

In life and in every circumstance, you should choose for the better. Sometimes you should set them free even though it hurts, but if you meet again it means you’re really meant to be. If you love someone then fight for them. If there’s something that’s hindering your relationship, then go the extra mile to fight for your love no matter what happens.Love is forbidden in so many places, for so many cultures, and for so many families, but the future is decided on how much the love for each other is.

Blogpost1: Soulmate: Between Destiny and Choice

In this world, we believe that all of us have soulmates but we don’t know who he/she is. How do we define Soulmate anyway?  A soulmate is the man or woman you are compatible with in disposition, point of view or sensitivity. All of us have ideal types with the opposite sex. When you see a person that catches your attention, you instantly feel that unexplainable connection to him/her. Little do we also know, we've already bumped with our soulmates in the past; or maybe we’ve already seen them in our dreams or maybe they’re just sitting beside us without us knowing. 

Only time can tell if it’s about time to see, reunite and settle with our soulmates who could possibly justify stuff like knees-turn-into-jellies, butterflies in the stomach and worse, the power of the eyes to invisibly extract out other people’s strength. It is normal that along the powerful name of love, another pair of intricacies would arise: destiny and choice. It is more likely that in between the man's will and what is fated, they would meet halfway in the center as a manifestation of confusedness.

To quote The Symposium by Philosopher Plato about soulmates, “In Greek mythology, humans were originally created with 4 arms, 4 legs and a head with 2 faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search for other halves.” There were three genders: the man, the woman and the androgynous which is having the characteristics or nature of both male and female. The men were the children of the sun, the women were the children of the earth and the androgynous were children of the moon. They said that human is stronger rather than gods, so the gods planned to destroy the humans but they failed. Zeus decided to revenge by splitting human in half as a punishment for humanity’s pride and doubling the number of humans who would praise the gods. Each human would forever long for their half soul; you would find your half sooner or later and you can understand each other without talking; you feel unified and together. That’s one of the mythologies of soul mate.

When I’m searching for a movie about soulmates, I saw a movie entitled “Just Like Heaven” directed by Mark Waters. It instantly caught my attention. It is a story of a woman named Elizabeth who had a car accident and a man named David who lost his wife. Elizabeth didn't believe that she’s already dead and became a spirit so she went to David’s apartment. David was shocked because he can see and hear Elizabeth, and that became the start of them being always together even though they’re not compatible with each other. After a long period of time that they have been together, they found themselves attracted to one another. David also helped Elizabeth in searching for her body which they eventually found in a hospital. Elizabeth's body was in coma and only life support was sustaining her life, even if they know that she’ll also die soon. David steals Elizabeth’s body in the hospital and went to his friend JJ to help him and David discovered that JJ was the ex-boyfriend of Elizabeth and JJ was the one who set the blind date between David and Elizabeth just before the accident happened. That’s why David can see her because they were really meant to meet. When Elizabeth’s tube was accidentally removed and she’s dying, David got distracted and did the CPR and surprisingly her heartbeat returns and awakens from the coma. However, Elizabeth doesn't remember anything and David. When Elizabeth has already recovered, she went to her apartment and saw David and found out that David had the spare key of her apartment and she asks him to return her key and when their hands touched, she remembered everything that had happened with David while she’s in coma. And that’s the start of their new life as a normal lover.

The plot in the movie is something that won’t happen in real life but this just goes to show that regardless of time and setting, fictional or for real, love is undeniably boundless. He or she may not be your ideal partner at the start, but time will play an important role in writing the story, that eventually will have a happy ending.

Another movie that I found is from the famed Argentinian director Juan Solanas titled “Upside Down” One quote from the movie says: "True lovers are one soul that is separated when it's born.” The movie is about the story between two people living in two different planets existing next to each other and both have a dual gravity. The upper world consists of people who are wealthy and prosperous while the people from the lower world are poor. Eden lives in the upper world and Adam in the lower world. They fell in love with each other since they were just little despite the fact that they come from two totally different worlds. Adam did everything to be together with Eden, he did research and experimented to have an anti-gravity product. And after so many years of researching, he was able to find a solution to anti-gravity. Despite the years and challenges, they reunited and pursued their love for each other. 

When you've already fallen in love, you don't care anymore if you’re doing wrong and against the law. What matters the most now is you are with the one you love and no matter what happens, nothing can set you apart especially if you are tied by choice and destiny.

It doesn't matter if the movie is factual or a work of fiction as long as we can relate to the story itself, more so if the movie tackles the concept of falling in love, getting hurt and recuperating from the shattered dreams that eventually turn into a happy ending. A lot of people get so attached to movies like these that's why a lot of people also believe in destiny. We are bound to fall for the right person but the factor of time comes into play. Love comes at the right time. “Patience is a virtue” says one of the most famous quotes so don’t be so eager to look for your destiny because it will come to you at the right time. No matter how big the circumstances that will come along the way, time will serve as the foundation to make your relationship stronger and would hopefully last forever.